Mission Possible

Its easy to make a list of things which you want to achieve in the next few years. Its simple to say yes I'm going to do this because i need to and because i want to. Its easy...the words roll off your tongue. When you're saying it, it feels so good, it feels so liberating, it feels so possible. You have a plan, you map everything out step by step you go to the extent of creating a spreadsheet and writing down each and every step precisely how it will be done, you're so hopeful. You tell people around you what you want to do and you have done that so much that when they see you they tell YOU what you want to do! Its all you talk about you have it set, its ready, but.....It won't go...it won't go it won't grow it won't move or budge it lays lifeless in your brain spilled on that spreadsheet viewed by your eyes which seem to water each time you peek at your master plan gone haywire.

Is this water tears? tears of frustration because you dream but never seem to achieve. It is not out of laziness or the lack of inspiration because you are full of energy and surrounded by inspiring situations and objects and words. It may be genetic but you wipe that off because your fate can't be determined by biology. Reverse psychology. You keep making up excuses saying that right now the time is not right that you must focus on academics, that you must focus on being a wife, that you must focus on family life, that you must sacrifice your dream no matter how much that dream reappears in your thinking. Constantly. Constantly AS IN right now. It hits you in the night, in the middle of thoughts and planning, you gaze once more at the spreadsheet and this time instead of crying, you pick up a pen and you begin 2 write because the time is now and now is currently taking place and if you live for others your fate goes to waste. SO I BEGIN THIS JOURNEY AND I TAKE WITH ME ALL WHO DISCOVER ME AS I LOOK FOR WHERE I'M MEANT TO BE.

HELLO I'M QUEEN-O AND I'M A LYRICIST, FEMINIST, ACTIVIST, BLOGGER, POET, SPOKEN WORD ARTIST, FIGHTER FOR ALL THINGS WHICH ARE RIGHT AND SHOULD BE. SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG. ENTER MY MIND AS I TAKE YOU THROUGH MY JOURNEY.

and She spoke

I would like to take this time to reflect on my life and thank those who are involved in it.
Many people i come into contact with don't realize how much of a role they play in my evolving.
I'm turning into a better person everyday with the help of my friends and my enemies.
Yesterday i wasn't the woman i am today.
Last week i wasn't as mature as i am now typing this message.
A few weeks back i wasn't sure of who i was.
Now i sit here totally aware of my strengths and weaknesses.
My likes and dislikes are visible as well.
I'm not saying I've completely grown into the phenomenal woman I'm meant to be but everyday and every night i get closer and closer to this woman and frankly I'm dying to meet her.

I conclude this short testimony with a big thank you to all those who put up with my shit while acknowledging my brilliance.

Love ya! peace

Body Image and Self Esteem

I’m way too fat! These jeans would fit better if I was a size 5! I hate my stomach, my legs, and my whole body!!! Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever heard one of your friends make these statements? Well I am hearing this way too often in our society, body image has turned into everything for some especially in the western world. We are bombarded by the media which promotes images of women who have the ideal shape and form in magazines and television shows. If a larger sized woman is displayed then it’s most likely a joke involved…hehehe very funny. Let’s laugh at the overweight woman.  I wonder where they got the idea that all women want to be a size -2. It’s not real. It is a proven fact that most women are larger than the women the media displays. If you are an African woman fact is we once embraced a thicker woman but now the development of eating disorders are becoming more frequently seen in many African women! Please ladies we have to end this obsession!!!
I have never been skinny and honestly struggled with my body image for most of my teenage years. I was back then so ashamed of my body form that I did things to change and hide it from others. My insecurities caused me to do such things as wear clothes 3 sizes larger, I tried being bulimic for about 1 month but it didn’t go over so well because I hate the taste of vomit in my throat. I tried not eating at all which didn’t work as well because I can’t be in the same house, smelling fresh Egusi soup on the fire and not being able to eat it. I tried wearing girdles which were 2 sizes smaller then my size but eventually I started losing circulation in my legs and waist. Lol I have tried countless numbers of fad diets which required No eating, but drink this! Some of them have worked but they only fix the physical and do nothing for the mental. I did some soul searching during my senior year of high school right before college and I realized these lose weight fast diets were not working because I needed to work on the inside.
My self esteem began to grow when I started seeing women who were like me and worked it better then skinner girls. I started dressing in clothes which actually fit my figure and flattered every curve and handle bar. I began to notice that I was beautiful regardless of my size 18 and that number is nothing but that – a number. Being confident is fundamental in our survival of this funny thing called life. When it comes to beauty it is beyond the surface. A true beauty must embody the word and exude beauty in her communication, personality, and in the way she carries herself. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. What may be ugly to one can be beautiful to another. I guess the moral of my story is to love yourself the way you are, be healthy and make sure your outer image displays the woman you are inside once u achieve that all other things will fall in line. Ladies do not look to society or a man to make you happy or confident, make you happy!! 

This life is a Game!

What is this life but a big board game full of players? Players whose only goal is to get through the game a step ahead of the others and we thrive off of being more progressive and determined then our counterparts. Success is the point of the game and it is the ultimate goal. As human beings we must adapt to certain situations but it seems as if some people have become content with inadequacies. Adapting does not mean one should give in completely and accept social and political inadequacies. As human beings and citizens of nations we deserve basic rights, such as, protection, electricity, access to clean water, and the tools needed to create a successful life; if we choose success.


Unfortunately in some countries these basic rights are seen as a luxury and only available to those who were born with a silver spoon in their mouths, were lucky or those who decide to take it by force. So then do we blame those individuals who turn to a life of crime and deceit in order to survive? Or do we blame the government officials whose job is to provide these basic rights? The blame in my opinion falls on no particular person or system, the blame is equally shared amongst the people and those who govern the people. In this game called life players cheat and cut corners with the hope of reaching the prize before others. These cheaters have forgotten that no man can stand alone and that eventually their corruption will be exposed and they will be kicked out of the game.

Great players are those who truly succeed and ultimately  reach the prize! The game is not easy and often these great players will encounter many obstacles but these are players who have the future in mind and will leave behind a great legacy. These players are great thinkers who have great minds and attract other great minds.Great minds must collaborate and work together to regain control of Nigeria and together these great minds can create a country of leaders and together they will form a nation of great thinkers. So my question to you all is are you ready to play the game and if so are you one of those people who hurt their own just to get ahead? Or are you a player who plays fair and offers valuable techniques to those players who need direction? I mean are you a person of substance or a person who is empty and full of greed? Are you a thinker who feels you have the ideas needed to impact your society in the most positive way? If so there are others like you and I’ll introduce you to them….